so I've had this best friend of mine for at least 7 years, I met her at school when we were younger we were both more social than we are now. When we were smaller she was never afraid to speak up and I was just standing there next to her afraid to say anything because I was to shy. As we grew older she became more and more self cautious and introverted and talk about how she hates her self every day, and I can't help but think that I'm the reason she became like this. I can be known to be a little harsh to my friends without even knowing it, it's not like I mean to hurt their feelings but, its just my way of just showing them I care. As we grew up I was kinda telling her what she can and can't do for example if she spoke up I would tell her not to because it might have gotten her into trouble one day. I'm also known to overthink a lot and I would always think of the worst possible outcomes in situations. I wasn't trying to control her in any way I just cared about her and didn't want her to get in any bad situations, I guess that was just my really bad way of trying to protect her. And I still feel like a horrible friend.