for over a year now, ive been harassed by someone i knew in eighth grade (im in tenth now). hes demanded for me to send him nudes so many times now. i havent, but its been hard because this thought comes into my mind thats like, "what if it makes him stop?" although, hes also sent me messages that dont involve nudes. hes told me "what hed do to me". hes fetishized my bisexuality. hes talked to me in different languages, i understood none of them, but i used google translate and they all say about the same as his english messages. he asked what languages i *do* know, and i told him italian. he started harassing me in italian, which made me extremely uncomfortable. some of his direct quotes are: "you know you want to, you prostitute. lesbian slut", "you are a fat bitch, a gay ass slut, a fucking prostitute, and you would happily fuck a dog or a horse or any of your 'girlfriends'", "ok *my name*, i just want to see your body. all of its curves and indents." "i would so nut all over you", and so many more. a few weeks ago, he messaged me again after disappearing for a while. he didnt say anything like he had been for the past year. he said (all in seperate messages), "hi", "im sorry", "howre you?", "...", "are you just not going to say anything?", "plz". one of my "friends" guilt-tripped me into answering him, and this is how the conversation went: me: "what." him: "so, *my name*, howre you doing?" me: "fine. why" him: "dont know. bored i guess" me: "why are you being nice." him: "do you have a problem with a guy trying to fix his wrong choices?" me: "what do you want" him: "why are you acting like you have a problem with me fixing my wrong doing" me: "i have a problem with *you*." him: "dont suppose that youll say why" me: "you know why. i shouldnt have to present evidence of what youve said." him: "IM TRYING TO FIX WHAT I DID" me: "talking to me is only making the problem worse. what you did made me uncomfortable and it scarred me, and thats exactly what youre doing now. stop texting me." him: "FINE." due to some things in my past, im pretty traumatized and one of my triggers is when people use my birth name, especially males. he did that, and it made me so uncomfortable. i havent heard from him in a few weeks now. theres just one problem. one of my closest friends used to date his brother. before all of this started happening, he moved across the state from where i live and go to school. my friend just told me that she learned that theyre moving back to where i live, and theyre coming to the school i go to in october. im in band, and theyre both going to be in band as well, so him and i are going to have to spend time together no matter what. im seriously concerned for my safety, i dont know what to do. im so scared.
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You should really tell the police abt it and your parents
I’m pretty sure you can tell the police but I know that isn’t easy in the slightest so here are some things you can do: tell his school/work, they’ll definitely pay attention and it’s likely that he’ll be expelled; threaten to tell his parents, that often scares people; post the messages on your social media, he’ll be exposed to many people and I’m sure loads of them will have you back. Block and report him, DO NOT send any nudes (or at least send fake ones that aren’t of you if you have to) tel your parents if you’re currently comfortable enough, if you genuinely feel scared for your safety, tell the police. I really hope you’re alright 💗