So i have been struggling with mental health for about two years now.I have a friend that i’m not saying she fakes it but all she does is talk about her mental health and how bad it is, and anytime i ever try to talk to her about what i’m going through she just says like mood or something like that or she doesn’t even say anything.Im always there for her when she has a problem but she’s never there for me when i ask her if we can talk.She told me to read these texts between her and a boy and she said to him that none of her friends have problems as bad as hers because neither of us talk about them as much as she does.I try to act like the happy friend because otherwise she just makes fun of me and tells me i have no problems if i try to talk to her about my problems.
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I have this exact thing happening rn. I always try to tell my friend about myself then she’s just like “same” or yeah i get it or doesn’t say anything and changes the subject. I have been trying to tell her about my depression for a year now and she just is like yeah i’m sorry. and then yesterday i called her in the middle of a breakdown and told her what was happening at that moment. then she was like. “I think you have depression” all I said was yeah. in my head i was like “ IVE BEEN TRYING TO TWLL YOU FOREVER YOU JUST WONT LISTEN” but i can’t do that. because she has “problems” of her own. i know exaty how you feel. But it’s hard to let them go. sometimes you have to. I haven’t and probably never will. she is my bestfriend and as far as everyone else knows (including her) we will be forever and there are no problems. I am sorry and I hope you are okay. please know you are not alone💖
i think you should stop being friends with her. you dont need the toxicity in your life and you deserve so much more.
You should stop being friends with her. I would recommend speaking to her about the invalidation and if it goes downhill, cut off contact. You got this, lovely.
i don’t think she’s worth keeping around if she’s not willing to help you as well. a real friend would be there to listen to you just as you would do to them. she’s not a good person if she tries to invalidate your feelings to make her seem as if she’s in a worse place. maybe try talking to her and if she continues then definitely take action and drop her before something bad happens.