I’m a 14 year old girl. I was in grade 8 this past school year, and my story takes place from October ish until about December/January. I was asked to be on our schools athletic council(AC) which is basically a leadership group that organizes sports events. There was a boy who was also in AC, lets call him Joe. So me and Joe were friends and I didn’t know many of the other people in AC so me and Joe would hangout there in the gym during nutrition breaks. At first it was fine, but then the problems began. He would stare at me constantly and then put his hands in his pockets and touch his d*ck. He would stare at my boobs and would then very clearly be hard. It made me so uncomfortable but I was scared to say something so I simply ignored it. Then things started getting worse. He would ask me to jump up and down so he could “see them jiggle”. He would even go so far as to touch me inappropriately without my consent. I started telling him to stop and saying no. He would laugh at me when I did and continue what he was doing. He made incredibly inappropriate comments and this happened on a daily basis. At this point I was terrified to come to school and I almost started self harming again. I decided to reach out to my best friend at the time and tell her what was happening. She was also friends with Joe, and she told me that she didn’t believe me and that I was lying about it all. Then she told me it was because of my clothes and that I was asking for it. This caused me to not be able to reach out to a trusted adult because I was scared they would react the same way she did. This whole thing still bothers me so much and it makes me feel insanely anxious and uncomfortable around men. I can’t stand being touched and little things remind me of it. I don’t know how to cope with this because I feel like there’s nobody I can reach out to for help. The worst part is that I found out that my former best friend is now dating the boy who sexually harassed me and made me terrified to come to school.
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i’m so sorry that happened to you, more than once. remember, clothing ≠ consent. i hope you have made at least one new, kind friend, but i stand by you if you haven’t. cope with it however you can, but please don’t self harm! try find other ways to uplift yourself. i’m not telling you what to do, but please cope in a healthy way!:)💞💞 sending love💘💝