So I previously posted about making friends with COVID and I was already nervous enough and then I saw one of my "friends" posting about her and some other "friends" hanging out on instagram. My old middle school is very small (im going to be a freshman) and one girl disrupted all the girls and caused drama and the group was finally recovering from it and I started to hang out with these 3 other girls and then I saw them hanging out without me, I thought I was finally making friends (if they were my actual friends they would have been one of my first actual friendships. I've always had trouble with friends in that I was always the first one reaching out and if i stopped reaching out the friendship would end. With these girls I thought that that was the case, but it turns out they were just hanging out without me. This also happened a few days after I mentioned we should all hang out before school starts in the group chat. I texted the girl who posted it about it in a very calm way saying it really hurt my feelings to see them hanging out without me, all she said is that she wasn't the one who made the plans. The thing is if one girl had invited me and another girl, but excluded one girl I would have said something about it. I had already been having a horrible time with anxiety and stuff at home and then this set off everything and I cried for 3 hours that day. I've been nothing but kind to everyone I've met but I keep attracting people who use me for my smarts and homework help and then exclude me when they hang out. I'm sick of being always the second choice. I really only have one non toxic friend who I don't even speak with that much
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I get what you mean I used to feel that way about this one girl, she used to be super nice I've known her since 2and grade (I'm also a son to be freshman) and she started to change and become this nasty person who commented on pooks or anything I did and she did her best to exclude me from our friend group, I ended up cutting her off completely but one of my friends still talk to her, and sometimes I also feel like the second choice but I realized I just need to be my own person and not rely on anyone, anyway my opinion Is to cut them off they obviously dont care abt your feelings and just trust that u will make new friends this school year and also, u dont need friends be yourself, u dont have to be dependent on any snobby girls.Friends come and go yk?