hi! i hope my story will be slightly relatable hehe. anyways, my group of friends has been expanding over the past year, which is great! unfortunately there’s some problems that came along with this. this story mainly revolves around two people, (using nicknames) Chelsea and Emma. Imagine Chelsea as the nicest person you have ever met; she is pretty, extremely talented in almost every subject, really really smart, and always puts others first. this makes her quite popular amongst everybody since she is so so nice. emma is a typical depressed but super duper funny girl. she has low self esteem that is masked with dark humor. somehow, chelsea and emma join the group, and over time become close friends. here’s the story: emma obviously favors chelsea over everyone else, calling her perfect and an angel and whatnot. she (sometimes) puts others down for the sake of chelsea. chelsea declines her greatness. for an example, chelsea draws a perfectly depicted landscape that could be framed in the louvre. everyone gives their compliments, but chelsea is much to humble to take them. “oh, it’s kinda bad like the proportions are weird”, chelsea says. jumping up to help boost her confidence, emma says “oh no we‘re all so badddd at art and omg you’re so good wow!” and everyone else feels poopy. to try to actually have confidence, the rest of the group has been diminishing their true personalities and trying to become like chelsea. including me tbh :{ today, a few of us were planning a surprise party, and towards the end, emma pulls chelsea from me and another girl to discuss something. they whisper about something while we stand awkwardly behind, a deep, heavy feeling in our stomachs reminding us that we aren’t good enough. not trustworthy enough to hear what they have to say. and they do this over and over again, not realizing they are accidentally hurting us. we’ve also addressed this issue but chelsea and emma are overly nice and each time we say this they respond with sorryyyyy. it’s quite annoying and i’m hoping others have relative experiences. have an amazing day hehe
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I suggest talking to them again, but if they continue to act the same way I suggest maybe dropping them, or just ignoring their behavior. As for Chelsea, don't feel obligated to change yourself just so you can gain they're approval. You don't need to be Chelsea to be treated with the same respect as her, and if they can't treat you that way, then that's their fault.