Before i share my story regarding my best friend and I’s current lack of a relationship, all I ask for is your thoughts. I just need to hear a different thoughts from a different perspective on what’s happening. Anyway, Since the beginning of the Summer my best friend and I have overall just been drifting. She has found a new girl that she has been romantically involved with and is in a like summer fling with her. This girl is one of our mutual friends from our friend group. I’ve been focusing a lot on personal growth and just doing fun activities. Anyways, I realized like a week ago that I needed to communicate that I was feeling upset by us drifting apart For the longest time, in my life I have always been the friend that cared the most. I usually text my friends first, I initiate the conversations. I feel like I always give more than my previous best friends have do a lot of times I only have friendships that last for a year until I realize they mean more to me then I do to them so I distance myself. With this person, I don’t want to distance myself, we have a really strong connection. So I explained how I’ve been feeling during this time and how I don’t want to lose her to her. We then talked stuff out and everything was fine. Until a few days ago the girl my friend had been talking to and I got into an argument. It was pretty big argument, it really affected me. My friend would listen to me vent about frustrated I was but wouldn’t pick a side. Now looking back I don’t need her to pick a side, I just need her to speak up because at this point we’re on our third petty sub post that the girl has made about me. My friend say she agrees with I’m saying because the girls argument is quite biased and ignorant. So I don’t understand why my friend doesn’t speak up on my behalf. I think it’s because she is scared to lose us both which is valid. Expect for the fact that she has already chosen a side and that’s with her girlfriend(?). Because my Friend isn’t saying anything on either sides that’s her saying that both the girl and I are equal to each Other. Keep in mind that my friend and I have been close friends since freshmen year and we’re now juniors. She was the third person to know about the physical abuse that happened with my father which was hard to tell. I tell her everything, I trust her a lot. We share so many secrets. Her girlfriend(?) and her have been friends for maybe a year and have only been dating(?) since a month ago. Keep in mind this girl has graduated and is going to college so they both know it’s not going to last hence why they’re not actually dating. Plus the girl doesn’t even know if she likes girl. See where my frustration lies? i dont think she understands that with no clear choice, there’s an obvious bias. I feel like I might be reading into it too much though. What do you think?
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