My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and he's my first real boyfriend. I really really care about him but the quarantine has split us apart. He just graduated high school in May and is planning on going into the military, while I still have another year of high school. We have very different life paths and we are both going to be living different lives soon with barely any time to see or talk to each other. I don't see this relationship working out for much longer just based on the distance and separation were already facing and continue to face. We live right down the street but because of the virus we cant see each other and we rarely text. When we live in two different places soon it's going to be even worse. I know it sounds like I should just break up with him, but he always talks about us getting married and getting a house and dogs. He tells me about how I'm the only real friend he has left and that he wouldn't know what to do if I left him. I don't to absolutely shatter his heart and all these cute plans he has. He also has really bad anxiety and I'm honestly scared he might spiral into a depression or do something bad because of me. I still love and care about him and don't want this to happen. I really like talking to him and we have so much fun together, and I know if I break up with him it would be awkward. I mean, he's already told me he wouldn't want to be friends if we broke up because "It would hurt too much". I don't want to lead him on, I don't want to break his heart, I don't want to lose our friendship, but I don't want to continue dating. What do I do, and how do I do it?
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You do what feels right to you. You care about him and you're scared about what his reaction may be but if the reasons you're staying for are about his mental health more than the fact that you love him ig you probably shouldn't. Think abc it which would hurt more the breakup or knowing you stayed w him jus because you essentially feel bad for him? It pebbly sounds selfish now but you're still young and if it was meant to be you'll find each other later on... Concerning his health and all that you don't have to stay friends but you could be there for him still in case anything happens